Shame and Strength by Emma
Do you ever feel ashamed?
Not embarrassed. Not ‘oh dear, that was awkward’. Not discomfort. Shame. The sort of word you lift out of the vocab box with kid gloves. The real deal. That deep, burning in the pit of your stomach, I want to turn myself inside-out and climb into the wardrobe and cover myself in coats and put my hands on my head and then screw my eyes tightly closed and shrink a bit more.
Shame is one of those feelings that can’t possibly apply to anyone but you. It stalks the weak and the weird. Normal people can shake it off with the raindrops. But for those with something to hide, it sticks and it grows and it whispers and bit by bit it eats your strength until you’re too tired to fight it and you lie down and say, yes. You’re right. That’s me. I am that thing.... read more
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...Self-justification, therefore, is not only about protecting high self-esteem; it’s also about protecting low self-esteem if that is how a person sees himself.