Sometimes, when I'm sharing with Christians about tough times, I ask them: 'Why do you think God is breaking you down like this?'
Almost without fail they say something like, 'I know, I know, it's to make me stronger.'
No! No, no, no, a thousand times no!
He's breaking you down to make you broken. Don't, whatever you do, toughen up!
The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise. (Ps 51:17)
The LORD is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (Ps 34:18)
Everyone who falls on that stone will be broken to pieces, but he on whom it falls will be crushed. (Luke 20:18)