Real manliness is defined by Christlike character, and not just the Gentle-Jesus-meek-and-mild-style character, but the full-orbed fruit of the Spirit rounded out with strength, courage, conviction, strong passions, manly love, and a stout-hearted willingness to oppose error and fight for the truth—even to the point of laying down your life for the truth if necessary.
From TeamPyro's More on the Sissification of Church
Just the other day I was going to post on the fruit of the Spirit - wondering whether 'real men' would find Paul too feminized at this point. All that girly 'patience and gentleness' and nothing about mechanical, athletic or barbecuing ability.
Then I read the quote above. Now I think I agree with much of what the author says. He himself is reacting against a kind of John Eldredge 'wild man' myth. And who could disagree that manliness is defined by Christlike character? But to say the fruit of the Spirit requires 'rounding out' when it's applied to real men.... ??
Does this mean that 'faith, hope and love' are a bit 'chickified'? Perhaps they require rounding out with 'strength, honour and belching'? Or maybe 'be joyful, pray and give thanks' (1 Thes 5:16-18) need augmenting with 'build, fix and kill.'
Oh look, I'm all for stout-hearted fighting spirit. I know that men are cowards. I know what a problem this is. After all, the silence of Adam got us into this mess in the first place.
But when true, stout-hearted, courageous manhood is expressed, you know what it will look like? Cheek-turning, cloak-giving, rights-yielding, foot-washing, burden-bearing, shame-absorbing, sacrificial love.
It will look like the fruit of the Spirit. And even though these qualities may look sissy to the world - well... Real men don't care about looking sissy.
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